Steps introverts can take to become ‘master networkers’

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Education & Career Trends: October 22, 2022

Curated by the Knowledge Team of  ICS Career GPS

While networking might not be your strong suit, it’s a skill you can pick up in a few small steps.

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If you are an ‘introvert’, striking up a conversation with a stranger at a crowded event might sound like a nightmare. But that is what networking is all about — and networking coaches say you are fully capable of mastering the skill. Jevonya Allen, a self-described introvert who has been a networking coach for more than five years, says people often look down on introverts.

“We don’t derive our fulfilment in life off of being that No. 1 person in the room that wants all the attention, and society says that’s not good. That makes us think that we are a problem or that we are not normal,” says Allen.

But there is nothing wrong with having an introverted personality — and it certainly doesn’t mean you’re less cut out for a successful career, Allen says. She cites Mark Zuckerberg, Bill Gates and Warren Buffett as examples, noting that introvert strengths often include quality listening, effective problem solving and the ability to avoid impulsive decisions.

While networking might not be your strong suit, it’s a skill you can pick up in a few small steps. Here are some tips:

1. Create a few affirmations for yourself

  • Small statements that reinforce positive thoughts about yourself can help you get rid of your negative thoughts over time — whether you’re fighting harmful misconceptions about introverts or other personal insecurities.
  • One example: “I’m an introvert that doesn’t always like socialising, and that’s completely OK.”
  • Another: “I’m not perfect at networking, but I’m working on improving every day.”
  • Write down your affirmations in a journal, an index card or even somewhere on your phone.
  • Read them as often as possible, especially when you are having negative thoughts.

2. Have a strategy for networking events 

  • As much as you might want to avoid attending networking events with large groups of people, they are still a great way to make connections.
  • To ease your stress, ask a close work friend to come along so you can help each other navigate the event — or even approach strangers together if that’s more comfortable.
  • Consider avoiding events right after work, when you might be too tired to put forth your best effort.
  • Create specific goals to help you make the most of attending.
  • That might mean staying at the venue for at least one hour or getting contact information from at least two people before the event ends.

3. Schedule one-on-ones

  • After you make those new connections, the next step is to schedule one-on-one meetings with them.
  • Allen recommends meeting at least one networking connection weekly, for roughly 30 minutes each.
  • Getting to know your new connections better will help you build a network that can help advance your career or business, she says.
  • Try preparing some questions in advance to make the conversation easier.
  • Focus on learning more about them, their line of work and what advice they may have for you.
  • Be prepared to share information about yourself and your career goals.

4. Make following up a habit

  • Always following up after connecting with someone at an event or one-on-one meeting can make you stand out. 
  • It’s a simple step that can make others remember you in a positive light. 
  • Send an email, a text message or a handwritten note that thanks them for connecting with you, and either initiate another meetup or let them know you’ll reach out again in the future.
  • Make it a habit to send those follow-up messages within 24 to 48 hours of connecting.

5. Take advantage of social media

  • Social media can’t fully replace networking in person, but it’s a free and “low-energy” alternative that still allows you to make connections and promote your career and business. 
  • Some platforms might be more useful than others: People in your industry may be most active on Twitter, while people from another industry might frequently post on LinkedIn. 
  • Once you choose a platform, regularly reach out to potential new connections.
  • After you have connected with someone, send them a direct message thanking them for connecting with you and explaining why you wanted to connect.
  • Then, stay engaged: Regularly post about your ongoing projects or comment on other people’s posts.

6. Pay attention to names 

  • Remembering people’s names and pronouncing them correctly is a simple way to make a great lasting impression on someone.
  • She acknowledges that it can be difficult, so she has a few strategies for what to do after someone introduces themselves to you.
  • Ask them how to correctly pronounce their name, and repeat it back to them to make it easier for your mind to remember.
  • Find a few opportunities to use their name in your conversation with them, she adds: It can make you more personable while increasing your chances of remembering it.

7. Don’t forget the power of a smile

  • Smiling may not be appropriate in all situations, but Allen suggests making it a goal to smile more often during conversations with new connections.
  • It will make you appear more confident.
  • A 2013 study by researchers in Switzerland presented different faces with varying happiness to a group of participants. They found that participants preferred faces with stronger smiles. 
  • “Everybody appreciates the smile,” Allen says. “I would love more introverts to get out there and show your smile because it will only help you make those connections you want.” 

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